Meghan Markle has suffered a spontaneous abortion.
This has been told in a heartbreaking letter published in The New York Times in which she narrates with great detail how she suffered the loss and how she and her husband, Prince Harry, have lived the pain of losing a child before birth. Criticizing the society in which we live in which it is rarer and rarer that someone asks you "Are you okay?"
The Duchess of Sussex affirms that any morning in July, who had started like all (taking vitamins, feeding her dogs, preparing breakfast, picking up her son's paintings, changing the diaper to Archie), everything was twisted: "Than To change the diaper, I felt a strong cramp. I dropped to the floor with him in my arms, humming a cradle song to keep both of us calm, the cheerful melody contrasted with my feeling that something was not right.
Meghan Markle was fully aware that he was suffering an abortion: "I knew while hugging my firstborn, who was losing the second."
He also tells how the duel was in the hospital with her husband Harry, Isabel II's grandson: "He lay in a bed, holding my husband's hand. I felt the humidity of his palm and kissed his knuckles, wet from our tears. Looking at the cold white walls, my eyes got glassy. I tried to imagine how we would heal. "
He says he remembered his tour of South Africa when a journalist asked him if he was fine: "Thank you for asking, I said. Not many people have asked me if I'm fine."
Meghan Markle reflects before celebrating Thanksgiving in the United States on whether this society is fine. In the year of Covid, of confinement, of the thousands of losses, in the year in which George Floyd died drowned under the knee of a policeman, in the month in which he still discusses who has won the elections in the US .
The Duchess of Sussex regrets how polarized society is: "We are not only fighting for our opinions about the facts; we are polarized about whether the fact is, in fact, a fact."
And he assures us that this tension attached to the necessary isolation to fight against the coronavirus has left us worse: "He has left us more alone than ever."
That is why he dares to raise his voice and tell what many families shut up. They have lost a child during pregnancy. And that is hard, that it is painful and that should not be a secret: "Losing a child means loading with almost unbearable pain, experienced by many, but that few speak. In the pain of our loss, my husband and I discovered that in a hospital plant of 100 women, from 10 to 20 they would have suffered a spontaneous abortion.
That is why he invites us to follow the example of the journalist who asked him after an exhausting day, "Are you okay?": "We have learned that when people ask how we are doing, and when they listen to the answer, with the heart and mind Open, the pain load often becomes lighter "
